I have thought about this long and hard before posting it because I think it NEEDS attention and someone else to talk about it. I’m talking about Lady Gaga and her song at the OSCARS – “Til It happens to you”. If you didn’t know, she wrote the song to raise awareness about sexual assault and how you have no idea what it feels like til it happens to you. (Hence the title of the song). Here’s the link to the song:
http://oscar.go.com/news/music-moments/lady-gaga-performs-til-it-happens-to-you-on-2016-oscars
I want to write that I too am a survivor of rape and sexual assault. This may shock some of you and others may already know this. But I feel that if Lady Gaga can raise awareness on her platform, then who would I be to not raise awareness on mine?
So yes, rape and sexual assault does happen and it’s not talked about as often as it should be. It’s a tough topic and I understand that, but if more people came out about it, it’d make it easier for other survivors to feel less alone. That’s the ultimate reason why I’m talking about it. I’m hoping somebody reading will know they aren’t alone out there in this. I also want to say that woman aren’t the only ones to be sexually assaulted. It can happen to boys and men too! I think that’s something that doesn’t get mentioned enough either. It’s not a gender specific thing. It can happen to anyone at anytime, at any age.
I’m speaking from personal experience. I was an infant when the assaults started, and my last assault was my freshmen year in college. It’s unfortunate that it’s happened to me multiple times, but I KNOW that I’m not alone in that experience either, as sad as it is to say that. But just like Lady Gaga, I’ve come out on the other side and decided to do something and speak out.
So with that I applaud her. I applaud all survivors who have been through such a horrible thing. And it’s true, until you have been through it, there’s no way you can possibly know what it feels like. It actually changes you as a person and who you WOULD have become if it DIDN’T happen to you. But honestly, as weird as it may sound, it made me part of the strong young woman I am today. Without it I don’t think I’d have the empathy I do toward people who suffer from all types of pain. Takes one to know one as the saying goes. That’s not to say however, that those who haven’t gone through it can’t be compassionate towards those who have. I have found so much support through this blog and social media in terms of hard topics and talking about them. People have been nothing but kind and I am truly grateful for that.
So those are just some of my thoughts on a very difficult topic that I could write pages and pages on.
Kay